Let Them Walk Away

By Kendra Clarke

Everyone has experienced disappointments, life changing events, break-ups or break-downs sometimes to the point of needing an intervention. There have been trying times that have tested us and stretched us beyond our self-imposed boundaries. We have shed countless tears, nursed broken hearts, been disillusioned by love and our circumstances and have often wondered, “Why me Lord?”, “What have I done to deserve this?”, “How will I ever move on?” When we are going through tough times, it is so difficult to see or feel anything else; to look beyond the situation to see a bigger part of the picture that God has been trying to reveal to us. It is so hard to see clearly through the tears but just know that God sees your pain; He feels your heartache; He knows what you are going through and He is offering to love you, comfort you, and to deliver you past the pain through to peace on the other side if you will allow Him to. He says in Matthew 11:28-30,

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”

Past Mistakes Are in the Past

Our past mistakes, ill choices and bad judgment, do not limit God’s love for us. Each experience has been to mold us into the people we are meant to be to move us forward on life’s journey. The past is history and should stay there. The only reason to look back is to glimpse how far we have come by God’s grace. The present is just a snapshot in time and should be used to hone the skills that God has been trying to teach us all along. God has a plan for each of us and He knows just what to do, just who to bring into and remove out of our lives to get us moving in the right direction. When we go with His flow and not our own, we learn to trust God. We can do nothing apart from Him and when we try, we take un-necessary chances and risk falling flat on our backs.


God Declutters Our Lives for a Reason

John 16:33 tells us that,

“In this world, you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”

In Christ, there is true peace irrespective of our circumstances. When you think about what God has done; is doing and will do in your life, you realize that when He shuts one door or removes someone or something out of your life, it isn’t to hurt or to harm you. It is to declutter and remove the trash that has been blocking the entrance to your next blessing. He does it to make room for Him and His very best. Don’t stay and wallow in the pit of despair too long as joy cometh in the morning.  When you understand this important lesson about life:

  1. You won’t hold on to anything or anyone so tightly for fear of losing them. This is because what God giveth He can surely take away especially if it is elevated above Him.
  2. You won’t make anything or anyone an idol as everything falls into its proper position behind God.
  3. You will let go and let God have His way for only He knows the most direct route to align you with your purpose.
  4. You will finally leave all the decisions to Him and trust that He can make something beautiful out of every situation.
Let Them Leave

As difficult as it may be to accept, when someone walks away from you, it doesn’t have to be because of anything you did. I experienced this very thing five months ago. One day everything was nice and I’m helping him with his new ministry the next, he is gone without so much as a “good-bye”. I wish I could convey to you the hurt I felt because I expected more from a minister; a man of God. He was someone that I trusted would conduct himself with a higher level of decorum. It wasn’t the fact that he left because God was preparing me for His eventual exit; it was how he left. We had been great friends seven years ago, I expected that that would never change. I would have been willing to continue to write for the ministry, but God had other plans. As it turns out, the last article entitled “God’s Will” that I drafted for his ministry about two weeks before he left, would end up being the first post on my blog four months later…Who knew?

Remember, when people disconnect from you or decide not to continue on the journey you both started:

  • It simply means that their part in your story has ended. It doesn’t mean that they are bad people. They may be the best thing since sliced bread for someone else, but their small part in your award-winning script is over.
  • God had a purpose for them being in your life, make no mistake about it. Nothing happens by chance, luck or coincidence.
  • What the enemy means for harm, God will turn around for your good if you love and trust Him to.
  • They will go on with their lives just as you will move on with yours if you let God have time to do things His way. Wait for His very best and you won’t be disappointed any longer.

I always say, “One man’s trash is another man’s treasure.” You are someone’s treasure, a diamond in the rough that could not be found if you are entangled in an ill-fated relationship that was never meant to be permanent.

God Has Got It

Only God knows why things happen the way that they do, but He tends to make provisions for His children. We may not see His hand at work while He is orchestrating everything behind the scenes, moving pieces and people into place and removing them along the way, etc. but looking back, it is so obvious that He was in control. They may have walked away, but God allowed it.  You don’t have time to think about the loss or the uncertainty of tomorrow because no matter the circumstances, God has your back!