Archives for September 2016

Ghosting Never an Option

How many of you have heard of the term “ghosting”? For those that haven’t, “ghosting” in relationships, is when someone you are dating who isn’t man or woman enough to end a relationship the right way, instead cuts off all communication without any warning or an explanation. In other words, they choose to simply disappear as if you and the relationship never mattered or ever existed. Make no mistake about it, ghosting is a selfish and cowardly act of avoidance, which overlooks the feelings and the emotions of another. Some claim to do it in order to spare the other person’s feelings, but in actuality avoiding conflict is all about them.

Firsthand Experience

I have firsthand experience because it happened to me in April of last year.  I can’t express to you how that experience affected me, because him “ghosting” me was something I never saw coming and it was the last thing I expected from a minister. I mean, we had been good friends years ago so, I held him in high regard. So much so, that I didn’t hesitate in contributing my time and my resources, to his ministry. Yes, I expected more from a man of God, and even though in my spirit, I sensed the relationship would not go the distance, I always believed that our friendship would.

Many Lessons To Be Learned

There are indeed many lessons to be learned in our failures and what I learned from that painful experience was that, “it is better to take refuge in the Father, than to place complete and utter confidence in man(Psalm 118:8). One day, they can claim to love you, and the next, not even remember you name. For those who have or who are considering “ghosting” someone, my message to you is that at the end of the day, if you were adult enough to make the decision to get into the relationship, be grown enough to end it properly. It’s common courtesy and it is what you would appreciate someone giving you if the shoe was on the other foot. Break-ups are always difficult, but in the end, what goes around comes around.

 

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